Are You Secretly Into BDSM?
By: Denis Priesnov
Updated: 12 months ago
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Nowadays, only a lazy couple doesn't know about BDSM. With all the information on the internet, books, and movies, there's great exposure to this kind of sexual preference. Moreover, modern society encourages people to explore their desires in a safe and controlled environment.
And what can be safer than your own bedroom with a long-time partner? This is the place where you both (sometimes, even more than two people) can share your secrets and sexual preference. We encourage people to try new things and experiment with their loved ones when it comes to the time of giving/receiving pleasure.
For those who have seen "BDSM" scenes movie but are not sure what the practice really entails, here is a small guide to the four main aspects that will keep you both safe and satisfied.
Overall, BDSM stands for - bondage, dominance, sadism, and masochism. Let's take a deeper look at what each of these phrases means.
Overall, BDSM stands for - bondage, dominance, sadism, and masochism. Let's take a deeper look at what each of these phrases means.
Bondage and Discipline
This aspect of BDSM sex involves all kinds of physical restrictions of one or both of the partners. Bondage can be expressed by various means, from simple handcuffs to more advanced and complex shibari techniques.
Discipline revolves around and following the set restrictions in order to please your partner.
Discipline involves both punishment for disobeying the rules and some form of encouragement (e,g, praise) when following the rules perfectly. Both may involve corporeal and verbal punishment and praise.
Dominance and Submission
For many people who learn about BDSM only through the media channels or mainstream cinema, the whole BDSM concept may only conclude to dominance and submission. This is a straightforward aspect to understand, yet it bears so many inner aspects and peculiarities that it is often to execute if you don't know much about making the experience desirable and enjoyable for all parties involved.
After all, one of the main rules of BDSM is consent. There is no room for implied consent in this scenario. It should be fully and clearly expressed. Safety is the key to enjoyable BDSM intimacy.
Thu, couples usually come up with a safe word to use when the sensations are too much.
Thu, couples usually come up with a safe word to use when the sensations are too much.
Sadism and Masochism
These are more complex aspects of BDSM that are not studied enough However, the numerous studies conducted by psychiatrists do not consider sadomasochism a clinical paraphilia unless the practice leads to distress or impairment.
Though the individual terms refer to people who either prefer infliction or receiving pain, a great number of people can switch between the two and enjoy both.
There is much research to do when you are new to BDSM. The main rule you have to remember is that communication goes the longest way. Talking about your boundaries and desires is the first and essential step in practicing BDSM in a safe way that will be enjoyable for all parties involved.
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