Are You Secretly Into BDSM?

By: Denis Priesnov
Updated: 4 months ago
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Nowadays, only a lazy couple doesn't know about BDSM. With all the information on the internet, books, and movies, there's great exposure to this kind of sexual preference. Moreover, modern society encourages people to explore their desires in a safe and controlled environment.

And what can be safer than your own bedroom with a long-time partner? This is the place where you both (sometimes, even more than two people) can share your secrets and sexual preference. We encourage people to try new things and experiment with their loved ones when it comes to the time of giving/receiving pleasure.

For those who have seen "BDSM" scenes movie but are not sure what the practice really entails, here is a small guide to the four main aspects that will keep you both safe and satisfied.
Overall, BDSM stands for - bondage, dominance, sadism, and masochism. Let's take a deeper look at what each of these phrases means.

Bondage and Discipline

This aspect of BDSM sex involves all kinds of physical restrictions of one or both of the partners. Bondage can be expressed by various means, from simple handcuffs to more advanced and complex shibari techniques.

Discipline revolves around and following the set restrictions in order to please your partner.

Discipline involves both punishment for disobeying the rules and some form of encouragement (e,g, praise) when following the rules perfectly. Both may involve corporeal and verbal punishment and praise.

Dominance and Submission

For many people who learn about BDSM only through the media channels or mainstream cinema, the whole BDSM concept may only conclude to dominance and submission. This is a straightforward aspect to understand, yet it bears so many inner aspects and peculiarities that it is often to execute if you don't know much about making the experience desirable and enjoyable for all parties involved.

After all, one of the main rules of BDSM is consent. There is no room for implied consent in this scenario. It should be fully and clearly expressed. Safety is the key to enjoyable BDSM intimacy.
Thu, couples usually come up with a safe word to use when the sensations are too much.

Sadism and Masochism

These are more complex aspects of BDSM that are not studied enough However, the numerous studies conducted by psychiatrists do not consider sadomasochism a clinical paraphilia unless the practice leads to distress or impairment.

Though the individual terms refer to people who either prefer infliction or receiving pain, a great number of people can switch between the two and enjoy both.

There is much research to do when you are new to BDSM. The main rule you have to remember is that communication goes the longest way. Talking about your boundaries and desires is the first and essential step in practicing BDSM in a safe way that will be enjoyable for all parties involved.

Are You Secretly Into BDSM? Questions

bdsm quiz If your partner suggested to push some boundaries in your sex life, would you agree?
  • it depends on what they suggest

  • yes, let's do it!

  • I'm the one suggesting that!

  • no

bdsm quiz Do you have a standard/normal taste in bed?
  • yes, pretty standard

  • no, I like experimenting

bdsm quiz Would you like to introduce a third person to your bedroom?
  • yes! I'd really like that 

  • I'm not sure, maybe

  • no

bdsm quiz Would you put on a do collar and a leash?
  • I'd put it on my partner

  • yes, the leash in perfect for me

  • no, it doesn't seem attractive for me

bdsm quiz Do ever participate in sub/dom play?
  • yes, often

  • sometimes

  • no, never

bdsm quiz Are you open to the idea of bondage?
  • just the regular handcuffs

  • I'm interested, but haven't tried it yet

  • not interested

bdsm quiz Do you prefer longer foreplay?
  • yes. the longer, the better!

  • yes, sensual, with lots of teasing, etc

  • not super long, but enough time it get it hot

  • no, short foreplay is okay

bdsm quiz I prefer rough sex more than the slow vanilla one
  • agreed

  • sometimes, yes

  • no-no

bdsm quiz I mostly focus on bringing my partner to orgasm than on my pleasure
  • yes, absolutely

  • I prefer the perfect balance in give/take

  • no, I'm a bit selfish in this regard

bdsm quiz Do you like to see physical impacts of sexual play on your own or your partner's body?
  • yes, there's something sexy in that

  • it doesn't happen often, but yes

  • no, that's too much

bdsm quiz When you enter a sex shop, are you nervous?
  • yes, I practically never visit sexshops because of that

  • I'm nerveous but the place is very fascinating

  • I don't visit sex shops

  • no, I feel okay in a sexshop

bdsm quiz Do you value praise in bed?
  • yes, this is an important part

  • I'm not sure,

  • I don't really care about praise

bdsm test What do you think of 50 Shades of Grey?
  • intriguing

  • disgusting

  • poorly-done

  • knows nothing about BDSM

bdsm quiz Is BDSM for you about emotional or physical satisfaction?
  • emotional

  • physical

  • I don't know much about BDSM

bdsm test Do you get bored easily?
  • yes, if my partner doesn't support variety in bed

  • sometimes, when it has been some time with the same stuff

  • no, I prefer stability

bdsm quiz Can you get satisfaction if no penetration is involved?
  • yes, there are many kinds of emotional stimulation

  • probably, with the right partner

  • how can it be possible? no

bdsm test If your partner says they are into BDSM, what would be your reaction?
  • yes, you are my dream partner

  • I'm intrigued

  • I'm not sure our sex life will be satisfactory

  • can I join you?

bdsm test Do you enjoy mutual masturbation?
  • yes

  • I haven't tried that yet

  • no

bdsm test I prefer to take control in bed
  • absolutely, full control

  • yes, I like to have full control sometimes

  • I prefer balanced intimacy, when nobody has more control

  • no, I like it the other way around

bdsm test I prefer to give all control away in bed
  • absolutely

  • no, I prefer balance

  • sometimes, yes

  • I like it the other way around

bdsm quiz Dirty talk: yes or no?
  • yes

  • no

  • just something mild

bdsm quiz Would you agree to wear stockings or other sexy lingerie for your partner?
  • I already wear them!

  • only stockings, nothing too extreme

  • yes, I'd like to try it

  • no, I'm not into that

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